Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Actual conditions were 10-15kt SE winds with 1-2' waves. Water was boiling and turbid. Didn't see or hook a single fish, but slinging around big flies from a big rod is usually fun anyway. I gave it about a solid hour, mostly fishing a break inbetween the tip of a jetty and a stone breakwater 30 yards past it, and didn't detect the slightest part of fishiness.
Luckily, had my freshwater gear in the car and called fishing buddy Joe to hit the property's brackish "impoundment," really, a semi-occluded pond, for those of you keeping score at home. Tried to throw big flies from the big rod, but shoreline trees weren't amenable to it.
Got to have a nap on the beach, some good shop talk with Joe (a habitat restoration guy, like myself), and overall a pretty zen way to start a workday. Popped into the office at 9:01am with a good head on my shoulders. But next time, I'll check the marine forecast data myself. And bring the kayak.
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Made a last minute trip back to Tidewater, VA recently. Busy, busy with the job (new director starting and I remain in the #2 seat), and with ye olde obligations (brakes, tires, rats in the garden, blown AC circuit at the house, etc). But my parents are selling the house where I grew up, and so I came home. So many memories surrounding all of that - a story saved for another day - that it was total catharsis to be in the surf in my old hometown with my son. Blessings abound, and what not.
Thursday, July 17, 2014
A rat trap is no different from any other trap. Norway rats, imported onto this continent by accident three hundred years ago, have behavior patterns both in space and time that they obey nearly religiously. In theory, the understanding of those patterns of behavior make it easy to trap a rat. In reality, every trap laid by a would-be killer is a disturbance in the spatial pattern of the rats' environment.
Bait that is different from the detritus they're currently eating. A large bait-holding platform, hidden under a wildflower just a few steps away from the rats' main trail. Understanding rat patterning and movement will often kill a hefty number of six month old rats. But not the helpless babies - nature's future guarantee for an ample supply of the furry vermin. And not the dominant adults in the rat pack - for they know a trap. In my own garden I've retrieved hastily, painfully chewed off feet and tails that had barely snagged the mammals.
A rat cannot help but see and smell a new trap. The shiny varnish on the wood plates. The clean and shiny metal snapping mechanism. But a rat can be fooled by what he thinks is familiarity - rancid bait, crawling with ants. Metal rusted from the humid climate. Wood dry-rotted by the Mid-Atlantic sun. The rat knows better, but allows his pride, fed by that false familiarity with the materials in front of him, to control his thoughts, his movements, and his desire. He forgets that what he does, no matter how familiar, might have consequences he cannot bear. In that forgetfulness is the trap's beauty and strength.
Monday, June 30, 2014
Here's the thing. Unless you like conflict and chaos, you won't make time. And here's why: even though you may feel like you booked a beach/mountain/forest trip because you'd like to get some outdoor time to yourself, "like the way it was before you had kids," it's not going to happen. And I'm just understanding why. Here are a few things to consider:
1. Courtesy and Responsibility (young children). Balance in all things - right? Don't schedule a 4 day trip, and plan to surf by yourself each of the four mornings. Don't schedule a 3-day trip that includes a 36-hour campout by yourself. Be wary of scheduling a trip that would require you to leave the hotel/camp at 3am, possibly waking up your partner and your kids, as you're heading down the road "see you at dinner time!" These all seem pretty obvious, but before we all had kids, we did a lot of this kind of stuff, or at least I did. Your marriage or relationship needs to be intact at the end of the trip, and that's likely if you spend the trip acting like you're still 23.
2. Don't schedule your trip like it's for you "before kids" (older children). Remember your old outdoor trips? On the water by 6am. Back out by 11am. Pizza and a few sodas till 12. Stop by your favorite surf shop to run your mouth until 1pm. Back in the water by 1:30pm for the tide change. Surf/fish/hunt until dark. I'm lucky enough in this life to have had many days like that. But once your kids are old enough to participate in your outdoor sports (assuming they have that interest), you can't work that schedule.
|Waves like this are a vacation letdown if you don't have kids with you. |
And a blessing if you do.
It's more like...on the water by 8:30am. Out by 10am when the kids get hungry. Go out for lunch. Go play mini golf. Back home so kids can get some down time until 4pm. Get kids ready for dinner. Go to dinner. Walk on the beach/in the forest together as the sun goes down.
Those two days are fundamentally different. The latter shows flexibility and a maturity to stop the "main activity" because the kids are done with it. Instead of surfing, fishing, or paddling 5-8 hours per day, you'll be lucky to get 90 minutes of serious outdoor time per day, and again, that time may be engulfed by teaching your kids how to do it. Enjoy that reward - it's not a punishment. This leads to #3....
|Mom or Dad still think they're gonna get on the water|
every day? Suck it up, pay the money, and get as close as possible to the outdoors you want to see.
Once again, that's a travel model that doesn't translate. If you want to solidly get outdoors on your own for five days of a vacation, and you have children who are coming on the trip, please don't book 4 nights, or even 5 nights, of lodging. Book 7 nights, and book them close to your outdoor recreation destination. For example, a beach house that's within walking distance of the surf spot. A river or lake cabin with its own boat launch (or community boat launch, if you can only afford a rental place a few blocks away). Pay for as many nights as you can afford, both in vacation time and rental cost.
I've noticed that the more consecutive time we spend outdoors with Hank, the more he understands that the outdoors can be a constant - a lifestyle. That it can really be part of us if we simply don't keep scheduling 1-night trips to our favorite destinations - "Sure you can paddle tomorrow, but check out is at 10am so be back by 8am!" This also seems to help increase the confidence of the kids on the trip. Same beach or creek or forest every day. They learn fast.
4. Create a Support Network for the Trip. This has been the hardest thing for me to do, since we don't have a family who will randomly rent a beach house and invite us to join them. The alternatives are either to rent a huge place out of pocket and hope that someone's parents or grandparents will show up, happily babysit the children for no pay and no respect, and generally be okay with you acting like you're 23 again, "Hey mom, I'm leaving at 5am, can you watch my kid?" No. The other alternative is to rent a large house (or a few small cabins) with several families where multiple parents can take turns shouldering the parenting duty. This means that eventually, you'll get some time off. On your own. That's part of the goal, isn't it? If vacation is just to shop and spend money and eat too much food, you could save money and effort by getting a hotel room next to your local mall. Recruit some allies - and provide parental support to your partner as well, so she gets her time to do her thing.
After almost five years of parenting, I think I have it figured out. It's disappointing in a way, because the "great answer" is typical of other conundrums in life, "Just add money and time!" For this outdoor dad, adding days to a trip, paying extra for up-close outdoor lodging, and involving more parents or families (and their typically higher standards than my own) really seems to be the recipe for creating a trip that celebrates the outdoors, provides lots of time for the kids to learn new outdoor skills or at least new environments, and gives Dad some time to relive the glory days of 10 years and 30 pounds ago. Maybe your own recipe will be a bit leaner, and I hope you write about it, because like most things involving kids, the outdoors vacation can be amazing and fun, but it's rarely cheap or relaxing.